Comments on: The Fundamentals of Eye Contact http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/01/29/the-fundamentals-of-eye-contact/ Improving your life one thing at a time Sat, 31 Jul 2010 18:18:31 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Todd Smith http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/01/29/the-fundamentals-of-eye-contact/comment-page-1/#comment-2964 Todd Smith Fri, 30 Jul 2010 15:51:42 +0000 http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/?p=472#comment-2964 HI Older Wiser, :-)<br><br>Thanks for your contribution. <br><br>Todd HI Older Wiser, :-)

Thanks for your contribution.

Todd

]]> By: OlderWiser http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/01/29/the-fundamentals-of-eye-contact/comment-page-1/#comment-2937 OlderWiser Thu, 29 Jul 2010 14:31:32 +0000 http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/?p=472#comment-2937 The link to this article caught my eye because this is something I realize I need to focus on. Too often, as I recall a previous conversation, I might remember the speaker's mouth - lips, teeth, and other facial expressions - more than their eyes. I realize that I must have subconsiously focused on their mouth movements instead of what they were actually saying. Aside from the fact that lips and mouths are interesting to watch - lol! - I also realize that I feel slightly offended if someone stares at my mouth when I talk and even self conscious about it.<br>One more point that may be worth pointing out: if a person does NOT meet your direct gaze and his or her eyes dart everywhere, the impression they are conveying is that they have something to hide! The link to this article caught my eye because this is something I realize I need to focus on. Too often, as I recall a previous conversation, I might remember the speaker's mouth – lips, teeth, and other facial expressions – more than their eyes. I realize that I must have subconsiously focused on their mouth movements instead of what they were actually saying. Aside from the fact that lips and mouths are interesting to watch – lol! – I also realize that I feel slightly offended if someone stares at my mouth when I talk and even self conscious about it.
One more point that may be worth pointing out: if a person does NOT meet your direct gaze and his or her eyes dart everywhere, the impression they are conveying is that they have something to hide!

]]> By: Todd Smith http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/01/29/the-fundamentals-of-eye-contact/comment-page-1/#comment-1693 Todd Smith Mon, 10 May 2010 18:24:10 +0000 http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/?p=472#comment-1693 Thanks for your comment! I am going to try to include more real life examples in my future posts. Have a great week. Thanks for your comment! I am going to try to include more real life examples in my future posts. Have a great week.

]]> By: catascouts http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/01/29/the-fundamentals-of-eye-contact/comment-page-1/#comment-1653 catascouts Mon, 10 May 2010 18:19:44 +0000 http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/?p=472#comment-1653 Great tips Todd. I love the way you mix real life examples in your tips.<br>Thank you! Great tips Todd. I love the way you mix real life examples in your tips.
Thank you!

]]> By: Todd Smith http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/01/29/the-fundamentals-of-eye-contact/comment-page-1/#comment-1496 Todd Smith Mon, 10 May 2010 14:24:10 +0000 http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/?p=472#comment-1496 Thanks for your comment! I am going to try to include more real life examples in my future posts. Have a great week. Thanks for your comment! I am going to try to include more real life examples in my future posts. Have a great week.

]]> By: catascouts http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/01/29/the-fundamentals-of-eye-contact/comment-page-1/#comment-1490 catascouts Mon, 10 May 2010 14:19:44 +0000 http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/?p=472#comment-1490 Great tips Todd. I love the way you mix real life examples in your tips.<br>Thank you! Great tips Todd. I love the way you mix real life examples in your tips.
Thank you!

]]> By: toddsmith http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/01/29/the-fundamentals-of-eye-contact/comment-page-1/#comment-720 toddsmith Tue, 30 Mar 2010 16:35:09 +0000 http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/?p=472#comment-720 Thanks for sharing your story! The great news is that you are aware of the fact you are not making eye contact. I wish you the best! Thanks for sharing your story! The great news is that you are aware of the fact you are not making eye contact. I wish you the best!

]]> By: kandiamo http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/blog/2010/01/29/the-fundamentals-of-eye-contact/comment-page-1/#comment-717 kandiamo Tue, 30 Mar 2010 09:32:57 +0000 http://www.littlethingsmatter.com/?p=472#comment-717 I know this isn't an excuse but when I was growing up, making eye contact was just inviting getting screamed at by a bipolar mother. I find it nearly impossible to look people in the eye now, and don't even realize I have stopped until they walk away! I'm absolutely certain this is the single character trait leading to social isolation and career stalemate. I'm articulate and witty, informed and well read, and strangers seem to want to get to know me in a crowded room, but it doesn't last because I can't hold a gaze. My advice to others is don't judge people too harshly for lack of eye contact. You don't know what they survived to even be there with you. I know this isn't an excuse but when I was growing up, making eye contact was just inviting getting screamed at by a bipolar mother. I find it nearly impossible to look people in the eye now, and don't even realize I have stopped until they walk away! I'm absolutely certain this is the single character trait leading to social isolation and career stalemate. I'm articulate and witty, informed and well read, and strangers seem to want to get to know me in a crowded room, but it doesn't last because I can't hold a gaze. My advice to others is don't judge people too harshly for lack of eye contact. You don't know what they survived to even be there with you.

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