Is Your Attitude Helping or Hurting You? (Part 1)

Your attitude is a powerful sentiment. It affects every part of your life—self-image, relationships, business, and even your health. There’s just no way that I can cover the subject effectively in one post and so today, I am launching a three part series dedicated to YOUR ATTITUDE.

Definition of Attitude

A simple definition of attitude is a person’s feeling or emotion toward a fact or situation. It’s a person’s mental outlook on circumstances; one’s temperament, mood, or viewpoint. People tend to think that there are only two kinds of attitudes—positive and negative; but really there are many.

Here are just a few: friendly or reserved, confident or insecure, cheerful or depressing, compassionate or callous, determined or indecisive, peaceful or destructive, appreciative or ungrateful. It’s easy to see that all can be classified as either positive or negative and that they will truly identify who you are.

Attitude is a key component in defining one’s personality. Your attitudes affect how people see you—whether they like or dislike you, whether they want to be around you or avoid you. It affects their viewpoint about you—how they respond to you—whether you gain or lose influence with them.

Your attitude is reflected through the tone of your voice, the expression on your face, your body language and the courtesy or lack thereof extended to others.

Good and Bad Attitudes

Think of someone you know who always seems to have a good attitude. Who immediately comes to mind? How do you feel about this person? Is this someone you enjoy being around? Is this someone you would hire if you were an employer? Is this someone you would buy something from if he or she were selling something you needed?

Now think about someone who always seems to have a bad attitude. Who do you immediately think about? How do you feel about this person? Is this someone you enjoy being around? Does this person give you energy or draw energy from you? If you were having a party, would you invite this person? How likely would you be to embrace any idea that comes out of his or her mouth?

Your Attitude is a Choice

Your attitude is a choice and that choice is 100% within your control. Just know that the choice you make will influence every aspect of your life. Let me encourage you to begin looking at what’s good in your life and not what’s bad. If you are going through a difficult period, remember your attitude can make your life even worse or it can be the catalyst to turning your life around.

Learn From Your Failures

If you have experienced some recent failures, learn what you can and then force yourself to stop thinking about them. Continuing to think about mistakes you’ve made will affect your self-esteem, self-confidence, and ultimately your attitude. We all make mistakes. I’ve made hundreds of them. Everyone slips and stumbles somewhere along the way. But your success does not depend on how often you fall. It depends on how often you get up and try again and on how much you learn from each experience.

Stop Complaining

Perhaps most importantly, stop complaining. What do you gain by complaining? You certainly do not attract others. Most people don’t want to be around those who complain. You can’t change the situation by whining. You don’t make any progress or improve your circumstances by moaning and groaning. I can’t think of one positive result that comes from complaining.

Begin to Enjoy Doing What You Don’t Enjoy

If you find yourself struggling to keep a positive attitude at your job, begin to enjoy doing what you don’t currently enjoy. Make it fun. Look for the positives. Look at how you can grow yourself through what would normally be unpleasant experiences. People’s respect grows for a person who has a positive attitude when it would be easy to have the opposite.

Self Evaluation

So, let me ask you to be honest with yourself and evaluate your attitude. If your family, friends and co-workers were to describe your attitude, what would they say? Starting NOW, I want to challenge you to become aware of your attitude and it’s affect on your life and those around you.

In tomorrow’s lesson we will look at several other situations that can challenge your ability to have a good attitude. By the end of this three part series, you will have learned the strategies you need to be the first person people think about when they are asked, “Who do you know who always seems to have a great attitude?”

About the Author: Todd Smith is a successful entrepreneur of 29 years and founder of Little Things Matter. Sign up to receive Todd’s daily lessons at Little ThingsMatter.com

To read part 2 click here

To read part 3 click here

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  • elramirez
    "your success does not depend on how often you fall. It depends on how often you get up and try again and on how much you learn from each experience." I could not have said it any better, fear for failure should not stop us from trying.
  • Thanks El!
  • Donna Brewer
    Thank you t




    Hello,

    Todd, I was able to find the first commentary in the attitude series. Your lessons are so very true. I strongly believe our attitudes guide our lives to success or to failure.. How we feel and what we think about is what we attract into our liives. I am by nature a positive person, however when I do feel a negative feeling about a situation, I try to turn it around.Thank you once again for your website. See you in Utah, Donna Brewer
  • Hi Donna, thanks for your post. I agree about our the role our attitudes play in influencing our lives. All of these points are ones I am constantly working on myself. I think the key is awareness. If you aren't thinking about your attitude, it is hard to fix it. :-)

    See you in Utah!
  • Ernesto_Busnelli
    Ahhhh! Todd
    Fixed link! I can finally read the post. I was biting my nails all the way to my elbows. Ha ha.

    OK, great input, thanks. This is a wonderful reinforcement to one of the subjects I have been working very hard at for the last 3 years. Grew up surrounded by complainers so having a pouting face used to be normal .
    It is always good to read your sharp observations to compare notes.
    Have a nice weekend.
  • Ernesto,

    I hope you had a great weekend. I am glad you enjoyed my first two posts on attitude. It is amazing how those we are around influence our attitude. Thanks for your comment.
  • vickianzalone
    Good morning Todd and another WOW moment ! I try and live a life of gratitude no matter what the circumstances. This allows you to find the treasure in the trial and see EVERY moment as a positive no matter what. I also try and share this mindset with others who may be going through a tough time as well. When people are down the last thing they want to hear is "cheer up it could always be worse". However, showing compassion, support and understanding without judgement brings around a positive energy that really is priceless. Thank you again for sharing your wisdom friend ! Have a better than great day ! God Bless ! Vicki
  • Vicki, you know what is funny? When I think of the people who do the best job communicating their attitude through their written comments, I think of you, Shawna and a short list of other people. (Not Many) And you and Shawna both commented on this post. Humm..

    You are a great example of someone living life with a great attitude!
  • vickianzalone
    Ya know Todd, I really try and live a true life and to know that someone like you appreciates it really means a lot ! No matter the circumstances in my life I always feel blessed and highly favored. I am SO EXCITED about putting together a call !! You vision needs to be shared with the masses !
  • Thanks Todd! I always strive to be the forever positive optimist in every situation. I have made it my goal in 2010 to do what I love and have fun doing it. I do try to be a light to the negative attitudes in my network that I can't permanently delete and help them see the awesome things life has to offer even in the little things of day to day life. I am very grateful. Thanks for always giving the perfect words to start my day. Be Blessed! ~Shawna
  • Shawna, one of the reasons I inquired about your services is because of how you brand yourself through all your communications. Your attitude is apparent and attractive. You are a perfect example of what happens when you have a positive attitude...you will attract people versus repel them.
  • daniellecearbaugh
    These are great words of wisdom, Dad!

    I wish everyone had the some approach to life as you. You always have such a great attitude in all you do.

    Love,

    Danielle Cearbaugh
  • Hi Honey, I love your avatar (Photo).

    Thanks for your comment and kind words. As I told you yesterday, every time I see you, I see a big beautiful glowing smile on your face! I think I learned how to have a good attitude by watching your example.
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