Is Your Attitude Helping or Hurting You? (Part 2)

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The benefits of positive thinking and positive attitudes are well documented. Researchers have found that people with positive attitudes are happier, healthier, and live longer than those with negatives attitudes. So….

If You Are Going To Do Something, Do It With a Good Attitude – Think of the last time you were asked to do something by your spouse, employer or a friend but you really didn’t want to do what was requested. How would you describe your attitude in this type of situation?

Yesterday my wife asked me to do something while I was deep in thought about a project. Because I was in the middle of something, my immediate reaction was negative. I then had a choice. I could be grumpy and do what she requested or I could do it with a good attitude. Because I am personally working on doing everything with a positive attitude, I interrupted what I was doing, put a smile on my face, and happily helped her. It made the experience better for both of us.

The next time you have to do something you don’t want to do, let me challenge you to do it with a great attitude and see how it makes you feel. You will stand out!

Don’t Worry About What You Can’t Control – Here’s an interesting statistic I heard years ago. 92% of the things people worry about are beyond their control. If you are troubled about something you CAN control, like whether you are going to lose your job, then step up your game. Come in early, stay late, offer to work on a weekend, volunteer to take on additional responsibilities and everything else you can think of to increase your value. If you end up losing your job, you can bet you’ll get a good reference.

If on the other hand you find yourself worrying about something you can’t control, like the safety of your son in Iraq, then you must use your self-control and not allow yourself to worry about his safety. Worrying about things you can’t control will not only affect your overall attitude, but it will have a negative effect on your health.

Here’s a tip. Make a list of the things you worry about. Then divide that list into two categories: the concerns you can do something about and those you can’t. Take control of those where you can have an impact and put together a plan to attack them. Then make a commitment to yourself that you will be intentional about not worrying about the things you can’t control. Deal?

And lastly…

Challenge Yourself To Be Positive During Difficult Times – Bad things happen to all of us. It’s a given. But the key to maintaining our perspective and ultimately our longevity is our attitude during these tough periods. I cannot image one positive thing that can come from having a bad attitude during challenging times. Can you? Even if you lost your job, lost your home in foreclosure and were forced to sleep in your car, what good would come from having a negative attitude? The truth is that a negative attitude would compound your problems.

99% of the people I have met in my life have a negative attitude during difficult times. I suspect it’s because their thoughts are consumed with their problems and they’re not consciously aware of their negative attitude. The next time you find yourself dealing with something challenging, be aware of your attitude. Choose to remain positive. You will stand out like a bright light in a dark room.

You Are In Control of Your Attitude

Challenge yourself to do EVERYTHING you do with a positive attitude. Not only will this bring more joy and happiness into your life, but it will also build self-esteem and self-confidence.

Starting this very minute, stop worrying about the things you can’t control and start attacking the things you can. This is a choice you control. Don’t allow yourself to think differently.

When times get tough, be the person who stands out from the crowd with a positive attitude. If you are going through a difficult period right now, then be strong, be bold and read It’s a New Day.

Tune in on Monday for the final installment of this series.

Happiness is an attitude.  We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong.  The amount of work is the same. -Francesca Reigler

About the Author: Todd Smith is a successful entrepreneur of 30 years and founder of Little Things Matter. To receive Todd’s daily lessons, subscribe here. All Todd’s lessons are also available on iTunes as downloadable podcasts. (Todd’s podcasts are ranked #27 in America’s top 100 podcasts and #1 in the personal and development field.)

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  • Todd!

    I don't think I ever really connected worrying and attitude together before.
    That said, here is the thing I love most about this entry: So often people will say "I'm just a worrier." I have that in my family; my dad is a worrier because HIS dad was a worrier -- as if it's in the genes, like a cleft chin. However, worrying is a choice -- it is an issue of self-control (just like attitude). I really appreciated the method you offered for controlling our worrying. That is something I will do today so that I can STOP doing it, today.

    Thanks again as always.
  • Kindra- It sounds like your family is suffering from generational worrying. If there is anyone who can break the family tradition, it is you! :-)

    This tiny segment I did on worrying really is a big deal. I heard it 20+ years ago and I think about the 92% stat ever time I start headed down the worrying road....As soon as I realize I am worrying about something I can't control, I use my self-control to stop the worrying. I have done it so many times, it really does work. Let me know how it works for you?
  • drlewisricmond
    I sure am glad we have a good person like Todd Smith who gives us practical tips of every day living that stimulates our mind to pay attention to little things.
  • Hi Lewis, thanks for taking the time to share those kind words. They are appreciated.
  • Perfect continuation to yesterday's post.
    Worrying and frowning used to be an ongoing mood for me.
    I read that something like 95% of things we worry about never happen so I gave it a thought and remembering things that used to hunt me and even though it is impossible to count them accurately but came to the conclusion that the 95% is not out of touch with reality.
    Time came to get those ghosts out of the closet.
  • vickianzalone
    Just another delicious morsel of knowledge that reinforces what we know we should do even when we don't feel like doing it .... sound familiar !!! I hear your thread of discipline as the underlying message and I embrace it !!!
  • Vicki, you need to get an Avatar, so your photo shows up in these comments. :-)

    I have had a couple people tell me they feel a tone of discipline in my posts. Humm...It must be my no nonsense style of just doing what I know I need to do.
  • vickianzalone
    Added my Avatar thanks to both you and Shawna ! Still a little techno-challenged ! I want you to know my family can recite your definition of discipline.......the first word that comes to my mind to describe you and a trait I try and improve on each day. Enjoy this BEAUTIFUL day !
  • Vicki, your avatar looks great!
  • Jennipher Hau
    I have committed to reading your posts everyday. Since I have started I have found myself to be more productive, value my time and do the things only I can do and delegate the rest. Besides that I have learned helpful tips about how to shape my behaviors to impact the people around me. I am not suggesting that I have arrived or attained perfection, quite the opposite. But shedding light on this subject daily is keeping it at the forefront of my brain and making these tips my main priority.

    I realize the quality of habits one forms determines the quality of life one will experience. And yes, the little things really do matter. How fitting!
  • Hi Jennipher,

    I loved reading your comment. I am glad to see how they are impacting your thinking. As you pointed out success comes from the compounding affect of small daily improvements. You are doing a great job! Proud of you!
  • kerwinarnejo
    WOW! Is gonna be a great weekend with a positive attitude.... Thank you again for this i need it...Have a great weekend !
  • Kerwin, thanks for your comment. Have a great weekend.
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