Comments on: Building Rapport By Making Others Comfortable

By: Todd Smith

Todd Smith — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 02:10:27 +0000

Kevin- You are TOO funny! Thanks for bringing a smile to my face once again.

By: Todd Smith

Todd Smith — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 22:10:27 +0000

Kevin- You are TOO funny! Thanks for bringing a smile to my face once again.

By: KJ Kilroy Was Here Networking!

KJ Kilroy Was Here Networking! — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 18:00:15 +0000

Hi Todd,
Great Post! I agree that we can always get better in making others feel comfortable.

Have you ever felt the tension from being in a crowded elevator?
My challenge to any of you is can you break the ice?

As an extreme extravert I love to ask the following question in a sincere tone.
"I suppose you are all wondering why I asked you here today?"

Both nervous and genuine laughter breaks out. Sometimes even more spontaneous communication is invoked. The important thing is that it no longer seems to be such a dreaded uncomfortable ride.

Are You Receiving Me,
Kevin J. Kilroy

By: Todd Smith

Todd Smith — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 12:54:03 +0000

You may be a borderline introvert/extrovert OR you could be someone with TWO personalities.

By: Todd Smith

Todd Smith — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 12:46:05 +0000

That is too funny Shawna! I bet you weren't the only one to wonder what day it was.

By: donnabrewer

donnabrewer — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 02:31:23 +0000

I have to reply to you because I really relate to how feel. Though I consider myself an extrovert, I do enjoy more alone time by myself than I do when I am around a lot of people, Is this an oxy-moron or what? Ha!Ha!

By: Todd Smith

Todd Smith — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 22:48:04 +0000

Hi Dana- The question I would want to answer honestly to myself is WHY do they feel that way? Did you say something you shouldn't have? I would really try to understand why they are not welcoming to you. When I have found myself in similar situations I could usually identify the reason. In some cases, I was at fault and I grew from the experience. In other cases they were click groups that are unwelcoming to people that don't meet their “profile.” In those cases I don't put any effort into being accepted by those groups. My tolerance of those types of groups are low.

So, what do you believe is the reason they are unwelcoming?

By: Shawna Culp

Shawna Culp — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 22:42:15 +0000

Thanks Todd I will keep these tips front and center. You will laugh but
when the blog came in on Satuday I actually checked my calendar haha thought
it had delayed emailing me the blog post and went to check the date of the
post and my phone calendar Then I was all happy for a Saturday post it
was a great one!

By: Todd Smith

Todd Smith — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 22:37:04 +0000

Hi Donna- No one who sees me at events would think I am an introvert, largely because they associate extroverts as people who talk a lot and introverts as people who don't. The Myers Brigg definition is based on whether you gain energy or lose energy when you are around other people. In my case, I lose energy in most cases. I love being by myself.

By: Todd Smith

Todd Smith — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 22:31:23 +0000

HI Ernesto- Thanks for your text message. Yes, this post was an accident. Not only was it Monday's post, but it was the unedited version of Monday's post. Just goes to show that no matter how hard you work on the “Little Things” no one is perfect. All you can do is learn from it and move on to write a replacement for Monday.

Let me encourage you to take what you are learning in these lessons and continue push yourself to get better. It's time for you to have a “Break Out” season in your life. I see it coming.