10 First Impressions That Matter

We have all heard of the value of making a positive impression when meeting someone for the first time.  It only takes a few seconds for someone to evaluate you. This opinion is usually based on your demeanor, mannerisms, body language, speech, and appearance, but it’s even more than that.

When you meet new people and enter into new relationships, what do you notice?  Do you notice the clothes they wear in different settings? Do you notice the first email they send you?  Do you notice the amount of time it takes them to respond to your first email or phone call? Do you notice how they interact in the first meeting you’re in together? The fact is, you intuitively notice many things that, when combined together, form your opinion of them.

I learned early in my career that there is no other impression you can make on someone more important than the first impression. The school of hard knocks taught me that if you don’t make a positive first impression, you seldom get a chance to make a second impression, especially in sales.

As a Realtor there were countless little first impressions I focused on making that, when combined together, made me stand out from my competitors.

When I broke down all the actions I could take to make a positive first impression, my list was long.  Here are a few I always focused on:

  • I arrived at my prospective client’s home five minutes early.
  • I rang the doorbell at the exact time of the appointment.
  • I dressed in a suit and tie, looking my best.
  • I offered a friendly greeting along with a welcoming smile.
  • I intentionally showed an interest in the unique things people had in their homes, including their pets and children.
  • I focused on making equal eye contact with both the husband and wife.
  • I left a professional marketing book, highlighting my services for them to review between appointments.
  • I sent a hand-written, thank-you note after my initial appointment.
  • In my phone conversations, I spoke with a smile and a friendly tone.

Every little thing I did during the entire sales process created a first impression on a prospective client. From the car I was driving to the way I handled myself in the follow up call, everything was a first impression. I am convinced that all of these little first impressions when added together played a valuable role in placing me in the top 1% of 1% of all Realtors.  It is the same philosophy that has allowed me to excel in my various endeavors.

I want to challenge you to start being aware of all the little first impressions you are making on people.  Remember, these tiny impressions when combined together form your personal brand, ultimately influencing every part of your life.

Let me encourage you to make a list of all the first impressions you are making on the people who are important in helping you achieve your goal.  To give you a headstart, here is a list of ten.

1.  The first email you send. The first email someone receives from you makes an impression.  How is it formatted?  Is the tone friendly?  Is the message clear?  Is it concise?  Has it been proofed?

2.  The first time you greet someone. Do you smile?  Do you make eye contact?  Are you friendly?  Do you repeat their name? Is your greeting warm and welcoming?  Do you initiate a handshake?

3.  The first time someone sees you. The way you look leaves a big imprint in someone’s mind. What clothes are you wearing?  How much make up do you have on?  What do your shoes look like?  Is your hair neat and are your nose, ears, and eyebrows trimmed?  It all matters.

4.  The first time someone sees your car. While the car itself will certainly be noticed, the cleanliness of the car—both inside and outside—will draw attention.  I have never met anyone who took pride in their work, but not their car.

5.  The first time you engage in a meaningful conversation with someone. Is it all about you?  Do you listen with interest?  Do you talk non-stop?  Do you ask questions showing an interest in the other person? Do you use inappropriate language?

6.  The first time you are faced with a challenge. How do you react? What is your process for addressing the situation?  How do you treat others involved? You can be assured everyone will be watching.

7.  The first time you interact with a waiter or waitress. The way people treat the waitpersons tells me a lot about how they treat people.

8.  The first time you are involved in a group conversation. How someone interacts with a group of people, from their listening skills to the eye contact they make with each group member is recognized.

9.  The first time you have a phone conversation with someone. How do you answer your phone?  What is your phone energy?  Do you listen without interrupting?

10.  The first time someone hears your personal cell phone greeting. Don’t think your voicemail greeting isn’t a big deal.  It’s your conscious choice of how you want to brand yourself to every caller.  Does your voicemail greeting properly reflect how you want to be perceived?

I’m sure you could list many more first impressions we make on people. Each of these little first impressions will play a defining role in everything from your relationships to your career.  To improve the first impression you make on people, let me encourage you to read the related posts below.

Start focusing on making your first impressions count, while at the same time becoming the person who is consistent with the brand you are creating for yourself.  As you strive to become the person you need to be to achieve your goals, you will begin to make many positive first impressions without even trying.  They will become part of your standard operating procedure.

Don’t ever allow yourself to think something doesn’t matter.  Everything matters.

About the Author: Todd Smith is a successful entrepreneur of 30 years and founder of Little Things Matter. To receive Todd’s daily lessons, subscribe here. All Todd’s lessons are also available on iTunes as downloadable podcasts. (Todd’s podcasts are ranked #27 in America’s top 100 podcasts and #1 in the personal and development field.)

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  • Great list.
    I am doing property management part time these days and one of the first things I used to help me filter prospect tenants is walk them to the car and take a peek in, if I see a pile of papers and empty McD drink cups, cigarette butts, etc. I will not even read the app. they are out of the game because possibly or even surely their house will be the same but I need to realize that I could misjudge following this rule but not by much.
    Not worth the risk though.
    I watched a video by J. Rohn saying who cares about what people think but... they care about how you look.

  • Jenny

    I agree with everything you said except the car. My husband has the highest standards at work and at home, but his/our cars leave a lot to be desired. We are not "car people" and we don't put much effort into our cars. I really find it sad that people judge people on the car they drive and how spiffy it looks. Along the line of keeping life simple, we keep our lives more simple by not wasting a ton of time sparkling up our cars. They are not trashed, but I wouldn't eat off the floor. :) Thanks for the great website!

  • Hi Jenny- Thanks! I am glad to know of one person who strives for excellence at home and at work, but doesn't take pride in his car. :-) Now, I can say I know of one person, "Jenny's Husband."

  • I may qualify as your second person Todd. You got your list started and I can send you some referrals. ;-))))))))

  • daniellecearbaugh

    Great post Dad! Making a positive "first impression" is something you've always been good at!

    I love you,

    Danielle

  • Thanks Honey! I love you!

  • Sleeme

    My car is a mess but my work is meticulous :- )

  • You're too funny! :-)

  • Jim

    Todd-Great post! The "subtletys" above arent so subtle. They define how we are perceived,until given the opportunity to show who we are (if allowed).Great points.Thank you

  • Jim, I love what you said. These subtle impressions impact how we are perceived, until such time we are given the opportunity to show who we really are. But, like you pointed out, IF ALLOWED. Thanks!

  • Hello Todd,
    This is an ongoing lesson to constantly improve upon. Thank God I keep meeting new people.

    I’m going to post these ten tips on the front page of my new journal and leave plenty of room for expansion.

    I remember my first impression of you. It confirms that I choose my friends and mentors wisely.

    "Everything Counts In Small Amounts" - Dépêche Mode

    Always Impressed,
    Kevin J. Kilroy

  • Jenny

    Off topic, but I love Depeche Mode. Never saw anyone quote them. Agree that everything counts in large amounts. :)

  • Hi Jenny,
    You are never off topic when you communicate to me. I like to twist words to highlight my thoughts. I'll quote anybody, even if they got a beat!

    My best to your future personal development,
    Kevin J. Kilroy

  • Jenny

    Thanks, Kevin. My best to you, too!

  • Thanks Jenny- Do you have any quotes you want to share?

  • Jenny

    Not at the moment, but I tend to quote songs like KJKilroy Was Here and also movie quotes. :) Thanks for the reply back! I haven't had the chance to read ALL your articles yet, but I bet you tell the folks to be timely in replying to emails and phone calls. That's probably close to my # 1 pet peeve -- people who don't reply back AT ALL. Anyhoo....looking forward to reading ALL of your articles, but it'll take some time and of course I need to APPLY what I'm reading so that will take even longer. :) Have a GREAT weekend and thanks again!

  • Kevin- You should be a stand up comedian. Just think if you stopped meeting new people you would not be able to continue practicing making a good first impression. I appreciate your loyalty and support. Todd

  • Wendy

    Great post as usual Todd. In reading this it came to mind that people come from different walks of life and different careers. So people focus on different things about a person dependent on those areas of their life too. Saying that I mean if someone is big picture person they dont tune into the details as much as someone who is an auditor and pays close attention to ALL details and words spoken. I think this makes it even more important for us to realize that everything we do and say and every impression we make matters. You dont know what walk of life people are coming from so always be the best you can be.

  • Wendy- Thanks for your contribution. There is no doubt that different people notice different things. To illustrated your point, you should read the 100+ answers people gave to my post on Facebook yesterday when I asked the LTM community what bugs them the most about people. Things that would never bug me, bug others. Thanks! Todd

  • This is information that I've tried to convey to my daughters and the other young women (and even a few young men) that I've mentored over the years...it seems to be common sense, but we shouldn't assume that our young people know how to present themselves in a professional situation. I've shared this with my Facebook friends (and, yes, my daughters read what I post there!). Thank you for another pertinent and informative article!

  • Thanks Linda! Sounds like you have been a great mom! Thanks for sharing my post with your friends. Todd

  • Hi Todd,

    this is a great list of items to take into consideration. I was wondering if it's truly that rigid - I can spontaneously recall at least 10 situations where I corrected a first impression I had of a person - a good one or a bad one - after a while. But especially on the internet, it's absolutely true because we don't have anything else than a first impression of a home page, for example.

    I will walk with more awareness know through life, so thanks for sharing.

    Take care

    Oliver

  • Hi Oliver- What do you mean by "Is it truly that rigid?"

    Here is the bottom line to my thinking. People notice things intuitively. It is not something they can control. If you are in a store and meet a friend, you notice what he or she looks like. It all happens in a flash.

    Every little impression, including hair growing out of your nose, has an influence on how you are viewed.

    Yes, you can correct a poor first impression, but you can't erase the image burned in another person's mind.

    There is something with a first impression that leaves the biggest imprint in someone's mind. People are quick to form opinions and slow to change them.

    Todd

  • Hi Todd,

    thanks for your reply. With rigid I mean, if the judgements that are taken by these first impressions are definetely set in stone or if we have a chance to change the outcome of a first impression - to the better and of course, also to the worse.

    Have a blessed weekend and take care

    Oliver

  • Thanks Oliver! I hope you have a great weekend too.

  • Simply great particularly under normal circumstances.

  • Thanks Amer!

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