Push Yourself

(Author: Jake Smith, Todd’s son)


I’ve learned that the only way to grow is to push yourself beyond what’s comfortable. I’ve found in my short life that you will not get better by doing what you always do. You have to use your personal initiative to go outside your comfort zone in your pursuit of success.

My First Job

This was reinforced last year when I started looking for my first job. Initially, I thought of two places where I wanted to work, but my dad challenged me to make a list of as many businesses as I could. I went through every option and thought about all the places within five miles of my house. It was a good thing I did because I was only 16 and most employers wouldn’t hire anyone under 18.

Within a week I landed my first interview with Publix Super Markets. I was very nervous! I had never been on an interview before. Would he/she like me? Would I present myself well? These were some of the questions I thought to myself. I remembered to do the little things that my dad had been teaching me such as, smiling, making eye contact, having a firm handshake, and speaking with confidence. Well, it worked; I got the job!

During my initial offsite training, which was also intimidating, I learned my basic responsibilities, which included bagging groceries, retrieving carts, and mopping the floors. I recall my first day on the job. My palms were sweaty. My heart was beating out of my chest. It was a completely new experience for me.

Moving Outside My Comfort Zone

Implementing what I learned combined with the little things my parents had taught me, I began to get better. I was a hard worker and the manager took notice quickly! After working there a few weeks I received compliments from the manager that I was a better worker than some of the kids who had worked there much longer than me.

At this point I was doing a good job with my assigned responsibilities, but there was still room for growth. Being an introvert, I was uncomfortable interacting with customers. My dad challenged me to be friendly with every customer whose groceries I bagged. This was difficult. On a typical 4-5 hour shift, I would bag between 80-100 people’s groceries.

The first day I was friendly and outgoing to two people. The next time it was five people. The next time 10, then 15, then 25. It was still uncomfortable but because I pushed myself to get better it got easier. By the 6th day, I was friendly to 50 people! It still wasn’t natural but it wasn’t too uncomfortable to ask people how their day was going or talk about the weather!

My Reward

Everyone who knows me knows that I am a quiet and reserved person around strangers. But one of the top cashiers didn’t know me as that person. He told me one day, “You are very good with people.” I never thought in my life I would hear that! It just goes to show that anything is possible if you push yourself beyond what’s comfortable. The improvements I had made definitely gave me a feeling of accomplishment and made me feel better about myself.

In my short work experience, I’ve noticed that the first step outside your comfort zone is by far the hardest. But then it only gets easier! I want to challenge you to find something in your life that you can improve upon. Then push yourself to get better at it! You will be fulfilled and gain confidence as people around you take notice of your development.

It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before… to test your limits… to break through barriers. And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin

About the Author: Jake Smith is the son of Todd Smith, founder of Little Things Matter. To receive Todd’s daily lessons, subscribe here. All Todd’s lessons are also available on iTunes as downloadable podcasts. (Todd’s podcasts are listed #52 in America’s top 100 podcasts.)

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  • Djacksonsmith
    Thanks Jake,

    Great post! I have always thought of myself as one who pushes himself, however after listening to your post 3 times this week (and carried with me a printed version of the post) I realized that I was avoiding some issues.So I decided to start PUSHING MYSELF to do those things that I find uncomfortable doing yet are necessary to achieve my goals. Since your post I have contacted 3 people to resolve issues that I had put off for longer than I should have ... now on Friday I am released from the stress and have peace of mind. I will definitely have a more enjoyable weekend!

    Best wishes,
    Uncle Jack
  • Jake Smith
    Wow that's awesome! Thanks Uncle Jack!
  • A good analogy of this point is at the gym - you don't make your muscles grow until you have push yourself past your comfort zone - they have to tear to grow.

    Thanks for the reminder!
  • Jake Smith
    Good point! Thanks Katie!
  • Janetgsmith
    Jake, very nice post and thank you for sharing what you have learned in pushing yourself past a comfort level . . . you have learned so much at such an early age of a young man . . . it will be exciting to watch your life unfold. So proud of you Jake and we love you!
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Aunt Jane! Love you too!
  • daniellecearbaugh
    Jake,

    Awesome post! I think this is one of my favorite posts yet. I am so proud of you!

    Love your sister,

    Danielle
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Danielle! Love you!
  • Jake Smith
    Thank you everyone for your feedback! I really appreciate it!
  • Jenny Hau
    Perfect post! Some of the most amazing talents will never be noticed until they can realize they need to push past their comfort zone! You are an amazing man with many more wise lessons to share. Thank you for spending the time to put this lesson together. It was a much need and timely lesson for me. Thanks:)

    Jennipher
  • Jake Smith
    Very true! Thanks Jennipher!
  • Bonnie Cortez
    Hey Jake,

    I really appreciate hearing what you've learned. I have to say, I'm so impressed that you' learned to push yourself already. Many people don't learn to do that until much later in life and it really is debilitating. Your approach, taking small steps and going outside your comfort zone, allowed you to see measurable results in a fairly brief period of time. Great quote from Anais Nin, too! I'm anxious to see how your new adventure - learning and living away from home - will help shape the man you continue to grow into. I'm proud of you, nephew!
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Auntie Bonnie! I appreciate it!
  • Great and concise post. You do have a bright future ahead for sure.
    Your parents did a great job at showing you the little things that matter.
    Ernesto
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Ernesto!
    I am blessed with the parents I have.
  • Hi Jake,

    this is an awesome post about a great learning experience. I agree with Gerrid that this is a priceless lesson at a very young age, congratulations.

    Take care

    Oliver
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Oliver!
  • Nancy
    Jake,
    This was a great post and so encouraging - even to those of us who have pushed ourselves outside of our comfort zone throughout our lives. What I appreciate so much is that you challenged yourself a little bit each day and made a big difference, not just for yourself but for those around you.

    As a fellow introvert, I can identify with what is articulated in this post.
    As a seasoned business professional, I see an attitude, awareness and self discipline that will bring great rewards and productive life.

    As your Aunt, I am so proud of you! Your insight and perspective of the little things will make a huge difference with regards to your future.

    Aunt Nancy
  • Jake Smith
    Thank you Aunt Nancy! I appreciate it!
  • Lois
    Jake, I am so proud of you, my dear grandson, for the great job you did on your post. Your voice is clear and your diction good on the voice part. I thought of my early years from 8 years of age and up canvassing from door to door. I was scared like you were on your first job. My dad would drop us last three children off in a town and we canvassed the town door to door selling mottoes, boxed cards and children's story books. I always hated that first house to knock on the door at 8:00 am, as I woke some of the ladies up, but it got easier as we went from house to house and the day's pay was worth it.
    Great job, Jake, keep it up. At 79 years of age now, I know that little things matter so much.
    Love, Nana
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Nana! Love you!
  • Great job Jake!!! You probably don't remember me but I used to be one of your pastors at South Shore. I just listened to the audio version of your post. Wow, I am so impressed and proud of you! Phil. 4:13
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Mr. McNabb! Great verse!
  • Aurus
    Wonderful post, Jake. As an introvert myself, I often feel uncomfortable interacting with people I don't know well, though at the same time I secretly wish that it was easy to be friendly with others! The next time I tell myself I'm just not a people person, I'll push myself to step out of my comfort zone.
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Aurus! Great advice for anybody!
  • Joy Smith
    Jake,
    You are a great example for all of us to step out of our comfort zone, no matter our age. If we do not allow things we think about ourselves to limit us-I am not a people person, etc-the sky is truly the limit.
    Great job, great post, I am so proud of you!
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Mom! Love you!
  • Jake,

    In the past 4+ years that I have known you I have seen you become more confident and willing to step outside of your comfort zone to try new things and to adhere to the advice of others. Your character is becoming more and more refined and I have no doubt that all of these lessons and challenges that you have faced will only help you as you enter into the next season(s) of your life!

    There is no doubt that you are being positioned for purpose!

    Great message today with strong advice that we all can learn from!

    I'm proud of you and love you :)
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Jessica! Love you too!
  • Jake- As your dad I am so proud of you. I admire you pushing yourself outside your comfort zone to get better. I have seen amazing growth in you and I am looking forward to watching your future unfold. Love you! Dad
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Dad! Love you too!
  • donnabrewer
    Good morning Jake, thank you for a short but sweet important lesson. Your father must be so proud of you sharing your first work experience with us. You also, should be proud of yourself for your accomplishments. Your fine learned attitude is one the needs to be commended. Being so young and having your life ahead of you, you are intelligent enough to incorporate the wonderful lessons you have learned from your parents now, instead of waiting until a later. If you continue as you have, and I'm sure you will, you are doing what many of we adults are still trying to accomplish at this time in our lives. I tip my hat off to you, young man. As I've mentioned to your dad once before, " the apple does not fall far from the tree". Have a wonderful week , and I'm sure where you work, shopping is a pleasure. Thank you, Donna Brewer
  • Jake Smith
    Thank you Donna for your kind words. Have a great week!
  • Jake, Many thanks for sharing your positive thoughts and experiences. Wish you every success :)
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Amer! Same to you!
  • Jake,

    Great post! You're learning an invaluable lesson at a young age.

    Keep up the great work!

    -G
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks G!
  • Uncle Barry
    Jake, you excel at whatever you put your mind to. I admire your courage to step outside your comfort zone to become all you can be. You are going to do it again when you go off to college and you will do well. I'm proud to be your uncle!
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Uncle Barry!
  • Jake,

    You definitely looked for the little things you could do to stand out from everyone else while working at Publix. There are several things that people can learn from your experience.

    Great post!

    Josh
  • Jake Smith
    Thanks Josh! I appreciate it!
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