Give Thanks With a Grateful Heart

This week we will observe Thanksgiving Day in the United States of America—a day when family and friends gather for a time of celebration and feasting. Soon your turkey and stuffing will be in the oven and pleasant aromas will fill the kitchen. Before we begin our celebration, let’s take a peak back four centuries ago when Americans celebrated their first Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving Day Long Ago

For 66 days a sailing vessel called the Mayflower carried 102 pilgrims across the stormy Atlantic Ocean and landed at Plymouth Rock in Massachusetts on December 11, 1620. During that first cold winter, 46 pilgrims died. In the spring of 1621, the Wampanoag Indians taught the pilgrims how to cultivate the land—growing corn, beans, and pumpkins which helped them survive. At harvest time the colonists were so grateful for their bountiful crops that Governor William Bradford organized the first Thanksgiving feast, inviting their neighbors—Wampanoag Indians. With joy and thanksgiving, they expressed their gratitude and appreciation to God for their bountiful harvest.

Many years later, in 1789, President George Washington wrote a proclamation, recommending to the “people of the United States a day of public thanksgiving and prayer, to be observed by acknowledging with grateful hearts the many and signal favors of Almighty God . . . Now, therefore, I do recommend and assign Thursday, the 26th day of November . . . that we may then all unite in rendering unto Him our sincere and humble thanks for His kind care and protection of the people of this country . . .”

Thanksgiving Day Today

So it has been that for over two centuries. Thanksgiving Day has become a joyous festival celebrated with a lot of enthusiasm. People have gathered together to thank God for His past blessings and to enjoy the warm fellowship of family and friends.

However, over the last 50 years Thanksgiving Day has lost its original significance. For many people, it has simply become a time when families come together to eat turkey and watch football.

As we prepare to celebrate this Thanksgiving with our family and friends, I encourage you, regardless of where you live in the world, to stop and reflect on the things for which you are grateful.

In our busy and demanding lives, it’s easy to focus on our challenges and overlook the things we are truly blessed to enjoy. It’s easy to lament what we don’t have, rather than appreciate what we do have. We would all benefit from the words of Epictetus, a stoic Greek philosopher, who said, “He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has.”

When we focus on all the positive things in our lives, we will find more joy, satisfaction, and happiness. Our lives will take on greater meaning and our hearts will be filled with love and gratitude.

My Challenge to You

1.  Make a list of all the things for which you are thankful. Stretch yourself to make a list of 50 people, things, or events. This can include the names of family, friends, co-workers and others whose relationships you value. Include your religious affiliations, your pastor or priest. Include our country and the servicemen who are protecting our land and our rights. It can also include your physical being, material possessions, and conveniences we so often take for granted. Parents, let me encourage you to have your children participate in this exercise.

2.  After making this list take some quiet time and reflect on everything you have listed. In the words of Thornton Wilder, “We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.”

3.  Express your gratitude to the people you’ve listed. It could be a hand-written note, a personalized email, a text message, or a phone call. Whatever method you choose to use, make it personal and heartfelt. Let these people know how you feel about them and how special they are to you.

If the weight of your challenges makes it difficult to give thanks, reflect back how the pilgrims must have felt. “The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than those who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving.” H. U. Westermayer.

Don’t take anything you have for granted.  Instead express your gratitude for all your many blessings—great and small.

We’d like to hear from you.  Please share your comments below.  What are some hidden blessings that you have recently become aware of?  Have you come to appreciate something that you took for granted in the past?  Have you come to appreciate a person whom you took for granted in the past?

About the Author: Todd Smith is a successful entrepreneur of 30 years and founder of Little Things Matter. To receive Todd’s lessons, subscribe here. All Todd’s lessons are also available on iTunes as downloadable podcasts. (Todd’s podcasts are ranked #27 in America’s top 100 podcasts and #1 in the personal and development field.)

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  • Hi Todd,

    thanks for sharing your insights about Thanksgiving and being grateful in general.

    These quotes are awesome, thanks for translating Epictetus's famous quote for me.

    I started three weeks years ago becoming and feeling grateful on a conscious level.

    Formerly, gratitude was something one had to be but not one chooses to be and feel.

    I also started writing gratitude lists that came easy to me and others that didn't come as easy to me because I had to look a little bit closer in order for me to find the gem of wisdom.

    In order to answer your question if we have something similar to Thanksgiving in Germany, my answer is no.

    At the beginning of October, there's a church feast related to appreciation to a good harvest, but it hasn't the dimensions Thanksgiving seems to have and there's no Black Friday either.

    That doesn't mean that German people aren't grateful, of course.

    I am grateful that we connected.

    Take care

    Oliver

  • Hi Oliver,

    It's great that you are being more conscious of the things from which you are grateful. When we focus on positive things, we feel better and are happier. I think it is a great habit.

    Thanks for sharing about Germany's church feast. Sounds interesting.

    I too am grateful we connected!

    Todd

  • Todd,

    I really like the list of "Little Things" that you did to give yourself a competitive advantage and will definitely keep them in mind. Thanks for sharing your tips.

    Joseph

  • Thanks Joseph! Thanks for your comment! Todd

  • Hi Todd,

    I remember back in October when we had our Thanksgiving, my favorite part was when I had asked everyone at the table before prayers to each share what they were grateful for.

    It's nice to see my American friends sharing this special day with their families and giving thanks. That's probably why I love what I do, teaching people to reach out in kindness everyday with the written word and to make it a part of their daily habits truly does make a difference.

    I love your challenge, it reminds me of a quote by John F. Kennedy:

    "As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them."

    Thank you Todd for helping us reach out to give, we are so blessed to have you in our lives to teach us why Little Things Matter!

    Have a Wonderful Thanksgiving!

    Dana

  • Hi Dana,

    Thanks for your contribution! We have done the same thing at our Thanksgivings in the past. Your message is a great reminder to do it again this year.

    I appreciate your kind words!

    I hope you and your family have a grateful Thanksgiving!

    Todd

  • elramirez

    Many thanks Todd! Hanging around and enjoying your lessons every day has been a blessing and something I am grateful for since day one and every day afterward.

    Have a great long weekend with your family and love ones and so do everybody in the LTM community.

  • Hi Lenny,

    I appreciate your kind words and ongoing supportive comments. I hope you and your family have a special weekend together.

    Todd

  • Sofia

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful passion for kindness and all these good readings with us. I don't exactly what cliked that took me to you website, but I am very happy that I learned about you. I really appreciate all this information. May God bless you and keep giving you the grace of sharing.

    Sincerely,

    Sofia

  • Hi Sofia,

    Thanks for taking your time to share your kind words. I hope you and your family have a great weekend together.

    Todd

  • Nobomi

    This is awesome. The act of reflecting to the many small and great blessings that I have has bought tears to my eyes. It is so amazing that we spend so much of our time and energy moaning and groaning about the mishaps in our lives. I was in a hospital on Saturday visiting a relative, it made realised how blessed I am for the healthy husband, kids and parents. It all boils down to how ungrateful we are. I have now learnt to thank God for every little thing he has done for me. I have shared this motivation with my colleagues and they were all so touched by it. Thank you very much for The Little Things That Matter.

  • Hey Nobomi,

    Every time I am in the hospital, I feel the same way. I often think we don't take the time to really appreciate all our blessings.

    Thanks for your comment!

    God is good!

    Todd

  • Louise

    Every morning I say at least 5 things I'm grateful for. I always send Thank You cards to people who have recently come in to my life, either or friendship or business. Most are surprised that people actually write handwritten Thank You's still. I'm just happy to put a smile on someone's face. Many Thanks to you for sharing your positive message - I always enjoy, and often share! Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family.

  • Hi Louise- What a great habit to get into each day. Where your attention goes, so goes your emotional energy. When you focus on the five things you are grateful for each morning, it makes you a happier person. I am sure the notes you send people make a huge impression, because as you said, very few people take the time to write someone a note. I wish you and your family the very best during this Thanksgiving Day holiday. Todd

  • Thank you for sharing these historical facts about Thanksgiving. The epic of that first thanksgiving did not remain in the US. Here in the Philippines, Baptists are celebrating thanksgiving each year, usually, the last Sunday of November. We decorate the altar with our best fruits and vegetables, symbolizing the bountiful harvests that we have, we have fellowship launch after the service. We invite the neighborhood especially those who are not members. Giving thanks is one great expression that a human being could ever give. Despite difficulties, a thankful heart harnesses the many possibilities that God can give you. Thank you for this post. Your blog is awesome!

  • Thanks for sharing what you do in the Philippines. That is great to hear. I have never been to the Philippines, but I have spent time with a lot of people from the Philippines. Each of them are special people and I can only image the love that's poured out on these special occasions. I hope you have a special Sunday as you celebrate Thanksgiving! Todd

  • I am a foreigner living in the US and years ago I asked some few people but nobody I asked could tell me precisely what Thanksgiving was so I did my research and I liked the idea so much that I think each culture should have their version of it. Unfortunately, it seems to have become another commercial holiday but the least of them all though.
    I've had a bit of a rough year but I have plenty to be grateful for and as I am starting
    a new personal journey that is challenging I know that it will pay off and I will remember
    this season of my life with warmth in my heart.
    Part of the things I have to be grateful for is new people I have met and known lately
    which I can identify so much better with. You Todd make it up there ranking high and like
    I say almost each week in my comments: thank you for all you do for others and you generous heart. You are impacting many in a big and positive way.
    Happy thanksgiving to you and your family.
    Regards
    Ernesto

  • Hi Ernesto,

    I am sorry to hear that this has been a tough year. I would not be surprised that in five years from now, you point to this year as the turning point in your life.

    You were the very first person to comment on this blog and have seldom missed a day. I can see the growth in you and I know you are a better person today.

    My encouragement to you is to learn from the past and focus exclusively on building your future. I sense you tend to hold on to things from the past and it's time to let them go. If you do, you will be free. You will feel better. You will have more energy to focus on achieving your dreams and goals. On this Thanksgiving Day weekend, will you make that commitment to yourself and stand by it?

    Ernesto, thanks for all your support and encouragement to me. Many of your thoughtful comments have helped me stay motivated in giving of my time to write these posts. There is a special place in my heart for you and for that I will be forever grateful.

    I got my books and will be sending you one with a special note.

    I look forward to the day we meet in-person.

    Have a great Thanksgiving with your daughter!

    Todd

  • Great Morning Todd,
    This is a fine lesson on reflection. I read and listened to this late last night. I not only accepted this worthy 3 part challenge, but stayed up last night acting on it.

    Thanksgiving is coming upon us and I'm grateful for all the people in my life...“Having the right attitude begins by showing gratitude.” – K.J. Kilroy Was Here!

    I just got back from my extended road trip yesterday to find waiting for me at the post office a gift from you. This is a very impressive looking 6 CD Audio Set Program with an easy-to-follow Training Manual and Workbook. I can’t wait to absorb this “Cycle Of Duplication” Business Building System created by you “W. Todd Smith”.

    Thank you once more for all that you have added to my life this past year. Your mentorship has helped me become a better person. As I continue to grow in life, I know the importance of ‘The Little Things Matter’ philosophy that you teach.

    A happy and rewarding Thanksgiving to you and your entire enlightened family my friend.

    Blessed By Each Day,
    Kevin J. Kilroy

  • Hey Kevin,

    Welcome home! I hope you enjoyed your time in Mexico.

    I am glad my training program finally arrived. I was wondering if it got lost. I sent a copy to Oliver in Germany the same day and he still has not received his copy yet.

    Thanks for being one of my most loyal followers since launching my blog in January. Your support and humor has made doing this blog more enjoyable and fulfilling.

    I hope you enjoy the Thanksgiving holiday with some close friends or family.

    Thanks for your friendship!

    Todd

  • LivewithFlair

    Very nice post here! We forget to pause and reflect this week. I can get so out of balance during the holidays. Prayer and reflection are the main ways I "keep my wits about me" during the stress. Thanks! http://livewithflair.blogspot....

  • Thanks for your contribution! Todd

  • Emailmediaart

    I'm grateful to have God's love in my heart , Blessings ~ Anne-Marie

  • Hi Anne-Marie- His love is certainly something to be grateful for. Have a great Thanksgiving! Todd

  • deb

    I am grateful for the school assignment that allowed me to see my daughter is comfortable in her own skin and doesn't feel the need to impress anyone. She is happy where she is and for that I am so thankful.

  • Hi Deb- It is great to see our children happy in their own skin. The competition in schools is so fierce that most kids wish they were someone else. Congratulations! I hope your family has a special Thanksgiving. Tell Mike I said Hi.

  • Onehrpaul

    I give thanks to you Todd. You are a wonderful person and have one of my favoritre blogs.
    Certainly wish this Thanksgiving reminder had posted last week to provide more time to have my notes mailed. May God bless you.

  • Thanks so much for your thoughtful message. I hope you and your family have a special Thanksgiving together. Todd

  • Ma510518

    I give "Thanks" for YOU and your wonderful blogs! I am so grateful that a friend forwarded me a link to your site and I even more grateful that I signed up and receive your newsletters! I pray God grants YOU a very Happy, Healthy and Blessed THANKSGIVING!

  • I appreciate you taking your time to express your gratitude to me. It means a lot. I am excited about my Thanksgiving. I have 15 members of my family coming over. It should be a great day and weekend. I hope you have plans to spend your Thanksgiving with those close to you. Once again, THANKS! Todd

  • Another AWESOME post, Todd! Thanks for the reminders of how well we all have it, and thanks for the history lesson - it's good to reflect on what our forefathers went thru. I will do your challenge and have my 4 kids do it too. Be well, Craig

  • Hi Craig, Thanks for your comment. I think it is great that you are reviewing this lesson with your children. I am 15 generations removed from the Mayflower, so it has special significance to me. I hope you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Todd

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