Posted by Todd Smith
What is the number-one thing people do that bugs you? Think about it for a moment. Do you have something in mind?
How do you feel about people who do that? Do you want to shake your head in disgust? Do you want to roll your eyes? Do you want to bite your tongue as you resist saying something? Do you want to blow your horn? How does this affect your impression of them?
Recently, I posed a question on the Little Things Matter Facebook page asking people to comment on what types of things other people do that bug them. More people responded to this post than any other question posed since starting this page. I hit a nerve.
Not surprisingly, people who lie, are intentionally deceitful, or flaunt arrogance were hot buttons for many who commented. The most common theme that emerged had to do with inconsiderate people. Some of the inconsiderate things listed included people who:
The number and nature of these responses prompted today’s lesson that deals with what happens when we encounter someone who does the very thing that bugs us.
Even more importantly, what happens when we’re the ones who are bugging people? How does it affect their view of us?
Why You Should Care
In the context of personal and professional development, you need to know one of the worst things you can do is something that annoys or bugs another person.
Upon reading this, you may feel one of two ways:
You might have guessed by now that I believe you should care. Here’s why:
Are You Ready to Learn About Yourself?
The first step toward ridding yourself of habits that others may find distasteful or offensive and preserving your reputation is to learn what you may be doing that bugs other people. The easiest way to do this is to simply ask. It may be awkward or even slightly embarrassing, but it won’t kill you.
Start with your spouse, your children, or another family member. Ask them for their honesty. And when they do offer to tell you, don’t get defensive. When you’re ready, ask a trusted colleague, supervisor, or someone who reports to you. It takes courage, but I guarantee they’ll respect you for asking, especially when they see you making an effort to change.
If you just can’t bring yourself to ask anyone outright, here are ways to figure it out yourself:
Today, rather than post what bugs you, I’m asking you to leave a comment about a habit of yours that you want to seriously eliminate. Simple answer this question.
If I asked my spouse, boss, co-worker, or closest friend the one thing I did that really bugs them, they would probably say _____________.
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Todd Smith is a successful entrepreneur of 43 years and founder of Little Things Matter. This blog contains over 200 of his timeless life lessons.
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