Know When to Slam on the Brakes

As we all prepare for this holiday weekend, I want to share two bits of advice to my career-minded readers.

As all you regular readers know, I have been an entrepreneur for 29 years.  During my early years, I did not recognize the importance of finding balance between my career and family life.  My desire to reach my goals was so powerful I worked 70+ hours a week.  My relationships deteriorated, my marriage struggled, and my hair fell out.

As if those issues weren’t enough reasons to stop overworking, there were more.  I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t enjoying the journey.  Of course, the thrill that came from achieving my goals felt great, but that was short lived.

Take Sundays Off

As my career progressed I made it a priority to take Sundays off.  I had always taken Sunday mornings off to go to church, but I often found myself working Sunday afternoons and evenings.

Sundays became the day when I would focus exclusively on my family, having fun and recharging my batteries. This decision increased my productivity because I felt sharper and more refreshed during the other six days.  It improved my relationship with my wife and children, and it allowed me to better enjoy my journey.

One of the main reasons why Sundays are the best days to take off, beyond its Biblical significance, is that it is the one day when most people don’t expect you to be working. It’s the one day a week that most of us can go without responding to emails, text messages, phone calls, and other work-related business.  We can fully shut down.

So my first word of advice is to take Sundays off.  If your chosen career does not allow you to take Sundays off, then find another day each week to relax, refresh, and spend time with the people important to you.

Take Holiday Weekends Off

This leads me into my second word of advice. Take holiday weekends off.  Not only are these the best times to spend with those who are important to you but, like Sundays, they are times when people aren’t expecting you to be working. Holiday weekends are the few times each year when you can take off more than two days without having to be available to clients, business colleagues, and co-workers.

I used to work through holiday weekends thinking, “While everyone else is resting, I am going gain market share.” My mind was programmed to attack when my competitors were relaxing.  While I still think this way, it is not as extreme.

With my wife’s strong encouragement, I started taking off holiday weekends.  By relaxing and enjoying time with my family over these extended weekends, it not only enhanced my relationships and brought more enjoyment into my life, but it also recharged my batteries and my work productivity improved.

Through my journey, I have learned that I must take time off and that the best time to do that is when everyone else is taking time off.  While one could argue I am giving up market share, and I might be, it’s okay. I’m willing to give up a little market share in order to enjoy my life better.

Recharge Your Battery

Just like the Energizer Bunny, if you want to keep on going, your battery must be fully charged and the best way to maintain optimal power is to recharge it by taking time off regularly. When you are fully charged you will be able to tackle tough assignments with all the energy, stamina, and the mental focus you need.

We all need sufficient down-time for rest, relaxation, and rejuvenation; time to play with family and friends; time to love and laugh and live.

Find the Balance for You

Now with all this said, I feel I must make it clear as I did in 10 Tips for Balancing Your Career and Family that working 40 hours a week is the break-even point.  In today’s world it is virtually impossible to get ahead financially working only 40 hours a week.

The key for each of us is finding the right balance between work and play. I have found that the right balance for me is working 50-55 hours a week.  This allows me to pursue my goals while at the same time enjoy my journey.

So, let me encourage you to slam on the brakes tonight after work and enjoy your weekend.

Establishing harmony between family and career doesn’t mean sharing time equally; it means finding the right balance between pursuing your career and enjoying the journey.

About the Author: Todd Smith is a successful entrepreneur of 30 years and founder of Little Things Matter. To receive Todd’s daily lessons, subscribe here. All Todd’s lessons are also available on iTunes as downloadable podcasts. (Todd’s podcasts are ranked #27 in America’s top 100 podcasts and #1 in the personal and development field.)

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  • Finding the right balance is definitely something I can improve on. I am kind of like the
    maniacal focused who loses track of time.
    Thank you for the reminder and guidelines.
    Have a great weekend you all and stay away from the keyboard.
    :-))
    Ernesto
  • Hi Ernesto- I never viewed you as a maniac. :-) Send me an email and give me an update on your work status. I hope you have found something that is rewarding. Todd
  • remy
    http://www.8womendream.com/how...

    Todd, I agree a million percent. You and Michael Gerber (my old boss) were my inspiration behind this blog post from last week. Finding the work - life- dream balance is critical. We have to also think about it in the right way, before it becomes our way of doing it....thank you for your inspiration, it is about the little things...one step at a time....
    Remy G, California - one of 8 women dream
  • Thanks Remy!
  • Kerri
    Well timed message. Thanks Todd, truly enjoy these little nuggets each day! Have a happy 4th!! - Kerri
  • Hi Kerri- Glad you are enjoying my daily nuggets! I had a great weekend with my family and I did not work. :-)
  • Todd - This was a terrific life lesson for us all! Have a wonderful holiday weekend and enjoy your family! Patti
  • Hi Patti- Thanks for your comment! We had a great weekend with our family. It was special for all of us. I hope you had a great holiday weekend as well. Todd
  • donnabrewer
    Good morning Todd, this is a wonderful lesson to live by. Thank you for reminding us all once again, that balance in all things is the key to success. We also have to remember, that if we are not doing our passion, we do do not enjoy the journey as much. It may be difficult for some to understand, but oh so true. I really enjoyed your wif'e's lesson the other day. She appears to be an awesome lady. Like your father, you chose a wonderful person to share your life with. It shows in your lessons, as you refer to her often. Have a blessed holiday weekend with your great family. Thank you, Donna Brewer
  • Hi Donna- Thanks for your comment. As you pointed out I am truly blessed with a great wife and father. In the weeks ahead you will hear from each of my children as well. I hope your week is going well. Todd
  • Hi Todd,
    thanks for this reminder. I'm starting right away next Sunday to work nothing at all ! You talk about the 40 hours a week. I think the more we work, the more focus we need what to achieve with our work. Otherwise, chances are we forget our goals or lose sight of them about working. And wind up working without goal, for the work's sake. There is a saying - at least in Germany - "Who works more than 40 hours a week doesn't have time to reach his or her goals." Have a blessed holiday weekend with your family and take care
    Oliver
  • Hi Oliver- Thanks for your contribution. There is definitely a big difference is the work culture between the U.S and Europe. We have a lot we can learn from a European friends. Todd
  • Hi Oliver,

    I agree with you. Sometimes when you're working very hard you have to look up and make sure you're running in the right direction! Always good to review those goals on a regular basis.

    Gerrid
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