10 Life Guiding Decisions

There’s no denying the fact that our lives are a mirror image of the decisions we make. Sure there may be a rare exception—such as a major health challenge— but in the big picture of life, we are where we are today based on the decisions we made in the yesterdays.

The key to living a happy and fulfilling life is to make wise decisions; decisions about where you live and work; decisions in how you treat and interact with others; decisions about how you spend money and handle difficult situations. But perhaps the most important of all is where you are leading your life.

Where are you going? What do you want your life to look like five years from now? Ten years from now? Twenty years from now? Are you going drift with the tides or are you going to determine where you want to go, strap on a 200 HP motor, and start moving in that direction?

Like many people I know, I am trying to get clear on what I want to do with the rest of my life. I have achieved all my major goals thus far; so now I have to figure out where I want to go from here. As part of my soul-searching process, I have answered ten important questions I think everyone should ask of themselves.

Regardless of your station in life, you will benefit from answering these questions. Perhaps they will confirm that you are on the right track. Or, they may open your mind to opportunities you haven’t previously considered. They may reveal the missing link in your quest to find happiness and fulfillment in your life.

Finding clarity and direction for your life

1.  What is important to me today? Start by identifying what’s currently important to you. To find the answer, simply look at how you spend your time. This is evidence to you and everyone watching your life as to what appears important to you at this point in time.

2.  What should be important to me? Once you examine the activities that fill your days, you will begin to realize some activities contribute more positives to your life than others. For example, time spent watching TV or surfing the web compared to time invested in relationships, personal growth, or worthwhile projects. It’s time to do some soul-searching and make a list of the things that are truly important to you.

3.  What do I want my life to look like? When you look 5, 10, 20, or 30 years into the future, what do you want your life to look like? What do you want to be doing with your time? Where do you want to be living?

4.  What do I want my days to look like? What type of daily routines would you enjoy? From the time you get up to the time you go to bed, what do you want the typical day to look like?

5.  What would I enjoy the most? Let loose and make a list of everything that fills you up inside. What excites you? What energizes you? Where’s your passion? Keep writing until you are done.

6.  What are my greatest strengths? If your family and friends were asked to describe your most impressive attributes, what would they say? What do you do better than others? What distinguishes you? What makes you stand out from the crowd?

7.  In what areas do I have extensive knowledge? In what areas have you spent the most time? Where would you say you have more knowledge than most people?

8.  What’s the greatest value I offer to the market? Make a list of every skill, talent, and ability you have; then put a dollar value next to each one. Your goal is to identify where your personal services offer the highest value to the market.

9.  How much money do I want to make? If you are looking to make a major career decision, you must decide how much money you want to make. Based on where you find yourself today, how important is money to you and how much do you want to earn?

10.  What would my criteria be in selecting something new to do? Twenty-one years ago I made a list of what I believed would be the perfect business for me. Then I went on a search, quickly ruling out businesses that didn’t meet my criteria. Finally I found a business that met all 35 points on my criteria list. Making this list was one of the wisest things I have ever done.

As you process your answers to these questions, ask yourself one more question. What are my options? Make a list of every option available to you that aligns with your lists. After draining your brain of all possible options, review the pros and cons of each option. Consider seeking advice from people you respect. You might just discover an unchartered coastline that leads you to your dream destination.

Ben Stein said, “The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want.”

Have you recently gone through a major change in your life? What lessons did you learn that could help our readers? Do you have any questions that should be answered? Please share your insights in the comments section below this post.

To get crystal clear on what you want to do with your life, be willing to examine your current lifestyle, ask yourself soul-searching questions, take time to create lists of your choices and goals, and let your sub-conscious mind help form a plan. Then move forward to a more rewarding life.

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About the Author: Todd Smith is a successful entrepreneur of 30 years and founder of Little Things Matter. To receive Todd’s lessons, subscribe here. All Todd’s lessons are also available on iTunes as downloadable podcasts. (Todd’s podcasts are ranked #22 in America’s top 100 podcasts and #1 in the personal and development field.)

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  • These are some great questions to ponder on. Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Knowledge and experience, it is most appreciated.
  • Thanks Donald!
  • Bill
    Todd,

    Another great lesson from a master of life management. Thanks for sharing your insites.

    It is said, "The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your questions". ( Yours are excellent) These questions will help us find the clarity and direction to discovering our purpose. When we know our purpose we get success, significance and meaning. Life is good.

    Thanks again for sharing

    Bill Davis
    My Daily Director, the Lifestyle planner
  • Thanks Bill! I appreciate your contribution. Todd
  • Ginny
    Todd,
    I was introduced to your work by Gordon Hester. As an Image Consultant who believes in reflecting one's true integrity, character and dignity through outward appearances and actions, I find your insights very helpful. You have a talent for saying the truth in a gentile manner. The business of everyday living as a wife and mother of 5, we can easily forget to dream or plan for the years ahead. My number one question for my husband and I was "What kind of adults do we want our children to become?" While in those parenting years, every activity, class and sport had to support that goal - to become a serving, generous, loving Leader of tomorrow. My baby just left for college, now what kind of grandparents do we want to be? How do we want to spend our retirement in 10 years? Great Questions!
  • Hi Ginny,

    Thanks for sharing the questions you and your husband continue to answer. I love both of them.

    Gordon is a great guy with whom I have great respect.

    I wish you and your family the very best.

    Todd
  • Monte Taylor
    Excellent post Todd -- thanks!
    Monte Taylor
  • Thanks Monte!
  • Janelle Helling
    First item in the list, How do you spend your time? How about things like driving to town, buying groceries, cooking meals, washing dishes, washing clothes, drying and folding clothes, cleaning floors and so on. There can be no question that these are the most important things (priority) in a family with traditional "old world" values. Without meals prepared, we don't eat -- it doesn't get much more priority than that. Housework assigned a dollar value has always been zero in my world. By the time the priority work is done, there is little time or energy left for anything else. I haven't seen any time management system that changes the fact that people expect three meals a day and clean clothes ...
  • Hi Janelle,

    It is hard to run a home, work, raise children, and do all the other things you outlined and have a lot of time left over.

    Todd
  • Great post Todd. I'm going to share it around. Even when you believe you've already got it figured out, this is a good list of points to review periodically.
    Todd, I have made it a goal to speak to one person each day in March that I know from social media but have not yet spoken with. I'd very much like one of those people to be you! If you are interested, please email me at kelly@kellykarius.com.
    Blessings on your work!
    Kelly
  • Hi Kelly,

    I think your goal to reach out and meet at least one new person a day is a great goal. I will send you an email and arrange a time to talk.

    Todd
  • ZenRider
    Todd do you still have that list of 35 key points? I would love to see that.
  • Zen,

    If I still had that list I would frame it. I have often thought about that list and how making that list changed my life. Here are some of the items that were on the list:

    1. To be in control of my income and future.
    2. To be able to choose how I spend my time and with whom I spend it.
    3. To be able to take weekends off.
    4. To be able to take vacations and not worry about things going wrong in my absence.
    5. To be able to retire by the time I was 40.
    6. To not have employees
    7. To not have all the paperwork associated with owning a traditional business.
    8. To not have overhead
    9. To be able to work from my home and be with my family.
    10. To have a business that was not impacted by seasons, interest rates and the economy.

    It was a legal size yellow pad that I can still see in my mind as clearly as the day I wrote it.

    While we have not met and I don't even know your real name, I appreciate your support on my blog.

    Todd


  • ZenRider
    Todd,

    We have exchanged a few emails on some of your topics. I sent you an email today with my real name. :) I love your blog and your book and your twice-weekly emails are among the few I eagerly look forward to.

    Thank you for sharing your list. Not surprising my list shares some of your list items.

    Peace,
    ZenRider
  • ZenRider
    Todd,

    We have exchanged a few emails on some of your topics. I sent you an email today with my real name. :) I love your blog and your book and your twice-weekly emails are among the few I eagerly look forward to.

    Thank you for sharing your list. Not surprising my list shares some of your list items.

    Peace,
    ZenRider
  • Janelle Helling
    Thank you ZenRider for asking about this list. And thank you Todd for sharing it. :)
  • ZenRider
    Forgive this empty post. I just want to be included on the dialog by email.
  • SKSConsultingInc
    Thank you Todd. It is great to connect with you again through your writings. I have always found you to be clear and exceptional at being able to impart ideas that are inspiring and very useful in practical ways. I look forward to reading more. Kathleen Seward
  • Hi Kathleen-Thanks for taking your time to share your kind and thoughtful words. Todd
  • Kemboi Olger
    The 10 Life Guiding Decisions are very vital in getting a clear direction in life. I have been struggling to find out my next career move. I recently joint a new organisation having work for 7 years in another. Two months into the new job and i feel like quiting. The 10 quetions have helped me know what a really want from my employer.
  • HI Kemboi,

    If you will take a couple hours and really think through and answer these questions, I am confident they will help you make better decisions in where you want to lead your life. They will also keep you from wasting time climbing the wrong mountains, just as you did the last couple months.

    I wish you the best,

    Todd

  • Lisa
    I recently went to a woman owned business conference and I realized something about myself - I have never wanted anything. I was taught to be grateful for what you got ~ if it was winning the lottery or a punch in the face ~ you got what you deserved. I grew up in quite a poor family with out a father so I would get things like socks and underwear at Christmas and never did celebrate birthdays - it was just another day - why celebrate? So as I started working myself, any amount of money I made I was grateful for but never thought that I could ever "deman" anything from my business. It provided me with food/insurance/clothing/car/entertainment ~ how could I ever ask anything and set myself up for failure by demanding so much when I was so unworthy to receive anything. At this conference, I learned the art of visioning and setting my intentions. I learned to feel the parts of your business as individual parts and follow what makes your heart sing and do more of that aspect.

    I now have an 8 1/2 by 11 sheet of paper with a vision of a therapy program for dogs and their humans built in a retreat center and training facility that I own. I visualize myself travelling the world teaching my concept as dogs as our teachers and my mindfulness techniques and zen practice/meditation techniques. I am so excited about my future. Now I can start working knowing where each day will lead me instead of just getting into a vehicle and driving aimlessly trying to be happy whereever I end up.

    Lisa Sellman, Top Dog

    Aloha Pet Care & Dog Training
    www.alohapetcare.us ~ website
    (763) 503-4797 ~ home or (763) 228-6862 ~ cell
    "Delivering the Aloha spirit to Minnesota dog owners one tail wag at a time."
  • Hi Lisa-Thanks for sharing your story! I can feel your excitement through your typed words. I wish you the best. Todd
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